If You'd Like to Contact Me

After receiving my newsletter or browsing through this web site, you may decide that you would like to contact me. You can do so via one of these ways, and you are welcome to do so.

You may Call My Office at (585) 475-9929

I answer my own phone. It's always and only me. I would love to be able to talk to everybody for a few minutes. I am deeply interested in meeting new folks and getting to know them for their richness and goodness and endurance. There is some heroism in all our friends.

So feel free to call. Some days I get a lot of calls and you will have to leave a message. I allow myself about a half hour each week day to spend on free telephone calls, and I will do my best to respond to you.

Understand that deep problems are not easily dealt with on the phone, much less in a short conversation. Almost always some helpful, supportive reading will benefit you and you can (and should) do that for yourself at your own pace and for free. So you can guess before calling that by the end of our conversation I will be making this suggestion. Depending on exactly what you say I will likely be referring you to my 10 by 10 workbook or to some of the other books I have listed at the Menu item Healthy Reading and Links. My workbook is designed to support persons in pain and help them keep looking and moving towards wellness until God's Kingdom brings the real solution we all long for.

Consultations and Second Opinions.

I do not provide week-after-week psychotherapy on the telephone. I don't find it in the best interests of my clients or myself. What I can offer is to consult on psychotherapy you are receiving from someone who lives in your area, or I might give you some ideas about how to find a good therapist. But the work almost always has to be done face-to-face, in my opinion.

This may be where I can help you the most. You can call and ask me about a diagnosis or treatment you are currently receiving. We would not get all of that done in a short phone call, but we could talk for a few minutes and then, if you prefer, we could make an appointment for a longer, one-time phone consultation that I would charge you for. I am not a physician and I cannot give you formal medical advice, but I can discuss the overall course of psychotherapy with you and make some general comments about the use of medications such as antidepressants and anti-anxiety agents.

You could tell me how treatment is going and if you are satisfied with your progress, and then I can tell you how it sounds to me. I typically try to help a client participate as an active agent to shape treatment progresses if you are in therapy.

That being said, I will provide one-time personal evaluations on the phone. That means we could talk for an hour or two and I would then make some recommendations about how you could follow up to get help for yourself from resources in your area.

You may Send Me an email at dloftus1@rochester.rr.com

Please feel free to write me a concise email. I do my best to read the notes I get. The shorter and more well written your note is, the more likely I will get through it. Some days are busier than others. Please do not send me sales material, or information trying to convince me about other forms of treatment. I have to try hard to take my own advice about living a simple, slow, uncluttered life, and one of the ways I succeed is by blocking out too much stimulus. There is only so much I can give my attention to, even if it is good stuff. Thanks for understanding and cooperating.

Feedback?

I would be glad to hear any reactions that you would like to leave for me. If you have nice things to say, try not to idealize me; and if you disagree please consider doing it in a way that is not crushing. I am, after all, just a guy made of dust like you are. I have all the same frailties and susceptibilities—I can fall for flattery and plummet with verbal attacks.

But then, I did put myself out here, didn't I? So I have to be ready for a certain amount of risk. Tell me what you think. That's how I learn.

Got a Good Joke?

Really good jokes are hard to come by, aren't they? If you have one you would like to share with other good souls who could use a healthy laugh, please drop it off here. And thanks!

Got a Success Story?

If you want to share one of your triumphs feel free to send it along. I love to read accounts of our better human nature coming to the fore—and all the more so when it is hard, and there isn't huge immediate confirmation for the brave soul taking healthy action. That's why I write the column "Healthy Steps Through Messy Times" in my 10 by 10 newsletter. (I have also begun to compile a book of such stories).

If it is OK with you, you can give me permission to edit and print your story. I may or may not—I have a lot of them to work with. Sorry, I cannot pay for stories.

I also am not accepting submissions for my newsletter. I am maintaining full responsibility for it by writing all of it myself.

You May Put a Note in a Bottle and Float it Across the Ocean to Me

This ancient method is a little cheaper, and I promise to read every one I get. Sorry bottles cannot be returned.




					If You'd Like to Contact Me After receiving my newsletter or browsing through this web site, you may decide that you would like to contact me. You can do so via one of these ways, and you are welcome to do so. You may Call My Office at (585) 475-9929 I answer my own phone. It's always and only me. I would love to be able to talk to everybody for a few minutes. I am deeply interested in meeting new folks and getting to know them for their richness and goodness and endurance. There is some heroism in all our friends. So feel free to call. Some days I get a lot of calls and you will have to leave a message. I allow myself about a half hour each week day to spend on free telephone calls, and I will do my best to respond to you. Understand that deep problems are not easily dealt with on the phone, much less in a short conversation. Almost always some helpful, supportive reading will benefit you and you can (and should) do that for yourself at your own pace and for free. So you can guess before calling that by the end of our conversation I will be making this suggestion. Depending on exactly what you say I will likely be referring you to my 10 by 10 workbook or to some of the other books I have listed at the Menu item Healthy Reading and Links. My workbook is designed to support persons in pain and help them keep looking and moving towards wellness until God's Kingdom brings the real solution we all long for. Consultations and Second Opinions. I do not provide week-after-week psychotherapy on the telephone. I don't find it in the best interests of my clients or myself. What I can offer is to consult on psychotherapy you are receiving from someone who lives in your area, or I might give you some ideas about how to find a good therapist. But the work almost always has to be done face-to-face, in my opinion. This may be where I can help you the most. You can call and ask me about a diagnosis or treatment you are currently receiving. We would not get all of that done in a short phone call, but we could talk for a few minutes and then, if you prefer, we could make an appointment for a longer, one-time phone consultation that I would charge you for. I am not a physician and I cannot give you formal medical advice, but I can discuss the overall course of psychotherapy with you and make some general comments about the use of medications such as antidepressants and anti-anxiety agents. You could tell me how treatment is going and if you are satisfied with your progress, and then I can tell you how it sounds to me. I typically try to help a client participate as an active agent to shape treatment progresses if you are in therapy. That being said, I will provide one-time personal evaluations on the phone. That means we could talk for an hour or two and I would then make some recommendations about how you could follow up to get help for yourself from resources in your area. You may Send Me an email at dloftus1@rochester.rr.com Please feel free to write me a concise email. I do my best to read the notes I get. The shorter and more well written your note is, the more likely I will get through it. Some days are busier than others. Please do not send me sales material, or information trying to convince me about other forms of treatment. I have to try hard to take my own advice about living a simple, slow, uncluttered life, and one of the ways I succeed is by blocking out too much stimulus. There is only so much I can give my attention to, even if it is good stuff. Thanks for understanding and cooperating. Feedback? I would be glad to hear any reactions that you would like to leave for me. If you have nice things to say, try not to idealize me; and if you disagree please consider doing it in a way that is not crushing. I am, after all, just a guy made of dust like you are. I have all the same frailties and susceptibilities—I can fall for flattery and plummet with verbal attacks. But then, I did put myself out here, didn't I? So I have to be ready for a certain amount of risk. Tell me what you think. That's how I learn. Got a Good Joke? Really good jokes are hard to come by, aren't they? If you have one you would like to share with other good souls who could use a healthy laugh, please drop it off here. And thanks! Got a Success Story? If you want to share one of your triumphs feel free to send it along. I love to read accounts of our better human nature coming to the fore—and all the more so when it is hard, and there isn't huge immediate confirmation for the brave soul taking healthy action. That's why I write the column "Healthy Steps Through Messy Times" in my 10 by 10 newsletter. (I have also begun to compile a book of such stories). If it is OK with you, you can give me permission to edit and print your story. I may or may not—I have a lot of them to work with. Sorry, I cannot pay for stories. I also am not accepting submissions for my newsletter. I am maintaining full responsibility for it by writing all of it myself. You May Put a Note in a Bottle and Float it Across the Ocean to Me This ancient method is a little cheaper, and I promise to read every one I get. Sorry bottles cannot be returned.