(10 by 10 Workbook Chapter 6 continued)

Yes, you could have learned the most important lessons in this chapter by age 10. Easily. Think how helpful it would have been to have a strong, healthy mom who was sure of her place in the world and who had enough confidence to stand up against mistreatment. Imagine having a mom who was emotionally grounded, who did not think SHE was responsible if someone else was unhappy or in a bad mood. Now visualize her taking you aside as a girl and instructing you that, as much as you care for other people, you did not as a child CAUSE them to feel as they did. They were responsible for their own reactions. That alone would have cleared up so much confusion for you.

What if you grew up with a dad who was respectful of his wife and children, and who held himself responsible to speak and act with self control? Wow! Think of the wonderful affect they would have had on you! And think of the opportunities you still have to act in a healthy way STARTING RIGHT NOW that will benefit you, your children and your grandchildren. YOU have the opportunity to change an unhealthy pattern that may have gone back for generations in your family. YOU CAN BECOME THE MOTHER YOU WISH YOU HAD. YOU can be the one who leaves new footprints, showing the way to soundness and health for the girls and the boys who follow you.

1 The part of this chapter that hit home with me most is:

2 I have found it very hard to face this about the quality of my marriage:

3 I covered up and hid my mate's abusive behavior when he

4 I know I should speak up more in defense of our children when

5 I tend to minimize the injuries my abusive mate causes by saying things like "Sometimes he can be
so nice," or

6 My mate has dominated me—overusing force and control in the areas of:

7 I have appeased him, trying to please him when I should have stood up to him by

8 As much as I consider marriage to be sacred, I must not allow my husband to treat me and the kids




		(10 by 10 Workbook Chapter 6 continued) And I Could have REALLY Learned This by Age 10? Yes, you could have learned the most important lessons in this chapter by age 10. Easily. Think how helpful it would have been to have a strong, healthy mom who was sure of her place in the world and who had enough confidence to stand up against mistreatment. Imagine having a mom who was emotionally grounded, who did not think SHE was responsible if someone else was unhappy or in a bad mood. Now visualize her taking you aside as a girl and instructing you that, as much as you care for other people, you did not as a child CAUSE them to feel as they did. They were responsible for their own reactions. That alone would have cleared up so much confusion for you. What if you grew up with a dad who was respectful of his wife and children, and who held himself responsible to speak and act with self control? Wow! Think of the wonderful affect they would have had on you! And think of the opportunities you still have to act in a healthy way STARTING RIGHT NOW that will benefit you, your children and your grandchildren. YOU have the opportunity to change an unhealthy pattern that may have gone back for generations in your family. YOU CAN BECOME THE MOTHER YOU WISH YOU HAD. YOU can be the one who leaves new footprints, showing the way to soundness and health for the girls and the boys who follow you. 1 The part of this chapter that hit home with me most is: 2 I have found it very hard to face this about the quality of my marriage: 3 I covered up and hid my mate's abusive behavior when he 4 I know I should speak up more in defense of our children when 5 I tend to minimize the injuries my abusive mate causes by saying things like "Sometimes he can be so nice," or 6 My mate has dominated me—overusing force and control in the areas of: 7 I have appeased him, trying to please him when I should have stood up to him by 8 As much as I consider marriage to be sacred, I must not allow my husband to treat me and the kids