“Are You Loving Yourself As you Love
Your Neighbor?”
Funshop…
Imagine entering a nice large room where
there are a couple dozen excited folks who want to learn to love
themselves more, and to feel better about themselves than they do.
These are kind, outgoing people who probably chatter and are so
friendly that you wouldn’t guess they suffer from crippling
self-doubt. They are a range of ages, with some in their 20s and
some in their 60s. Some couples, a bunch of singles. Your
first impression upon walking in is, “Hey, I like this
already…”
As I say once or 163 times in the 10 by
10 workbook, we are all The Walking Wounded. There are longings
we have which will not be fully satisfied in this short lifetime of
27,375 days. And there are pains we suffered which will not fully
heal.
But a lot of healing is possible.
We don’t have to hate ourselves and drag ourselves around
writhing in our own skin. We can feel a good measure of relief,
lighter, better about ourselves and our place in the world. And
when we DO FEEL BETTER ABOUT WHOM WE ARE we stop treating ourselves so
hatefully. We don’t need to binge eat or drink any more.
Our depression lifts. We don’t feel a need to isolate
in own cave. We show who we are. We connect. We get
out into the mainstream. We find some friends, and have some
joys. Even a little peace…
There is the benefit of universality when
we learn in a group. When you see how others struggle with some
of the same things you do, you feel so, so NORMAL. And you feel a
great lift—like there IS HOPE FOR YOU. The relief is big
and full and it helps a lot.
Here’s what the LYasYLYN Funshop looks like
The Funshop is designed to help bring
balance and comfort to the lives of those who feel continuously over
responsible, constantly guilty, seldom satisfied, and nearly always in
a desperate state of
‘I’m-so-tired-but-there’s-so-much-else-to-do!’
We also address the accompanying symptoms of depression and
debilitating fatigue that come from taking too much care of others and
not enough for ourselves.
What You will Experience
You will be with about 24 other people.
You will engage in fun, lighthearted, but transformative
exercises with them, and you will learn to heal yourself from your own
experiences, as well as watching the healing experiences of others.
There is greatly expanded opportunity for learning by doing this
with a group.
You and the other participants will help
each other get past your shame working together. My Funshop is
long on exercises, brief in lecture.
You won’t be sitting and taking
notes (though I will give you some notes to bring home); you will be
moving around and interacting. The concepts are simple to grasp
but mastery is challenging, and takes practice. I will provide
maximum opportunities for ‘trying-on’ the new learning.
The growth and ease comes—not from knowing the
concepts—but having healing experiences. This also allows
you to continue what you learned as you get back home. So you get
better and better.
The Funshop is silly-and-serious, and
undoubtedly a touching experience for you. Typically folks leave
feeling like they have learned a lot that they never knew before.
Oh, and they had a blast.
Preparation
I suggest you read and do at least some
of the exercises in chapter 1 of the 10 by 10 workbook. If you
have the basic idea of ‘Loving Yourself as You Love Your
Neighbor’ before you arrive, it will give you a good head start,
and you will benefit even more from the Funshop.
I got some of my ideas for the book from
live sessions of the Funshop, and a number of exercises we do in the
Funshop are also in the workbook.
Place
TBA. So far I have always held them here
in Rochester, but if there is enough interest it might make sense for
me to travel to your city. Let me know if you have a group who
would like to attend the Funshop.
Date & time
The length of the Funshop is 6-7 hours, usually
on a Saturday. Exact dates in 2006 TBA.
Reservations
If you would like to ask more about, or reserve
a place in one of the Funshops email me and tell me at
dloftus1@rochester.rr.com
Cost
$70 per person, due to be paid one month in
advance of the Funshop.
